I think in general the mission e wheels look better on a light colour car, but if you keep the car black and just change the wheels, perhaps consider the golden colour mission e or the unpainted style.
It will I think make the car quite different
I think your decision depends a lot on if you want the extra performance of the 4S, otherwise I would be inclined to say the Rwd is better because of the massive incentives to sell them before MY2025 start shipping.
What I believe your hearing is when you put the car into drive or neutral there is a loud audible noise that you will hear inside and out. This is regardless of electric sport sound being on or off.
For reference, I can hear the noise (don't have the ESS) when stationary
Personally would say must have options are:
Panoramic roof
PDLS +
4+1
Minimum 20 inch wheels
Surround view parking
Blind spot monitor
Electric mirror folding
Air suspension ( standard on 4s)
Big battery
Nice to haves:
Sport chrono
Electric sport sound
21 inch wheels
Crayon leather...
I believe bucket seats aren't available in North America, available everywhere else though. Its something to do with them not complying with USA regulations